Weddings, Butterflies, and Assorted Adventures

Starbucker over at Ramblings from a Glass Half Full just posted about officiating at a wedding, a first for him. One of the delightful features of this particular wedding is the release of butterflies at the end of the ceremony.

My main experience with butterflies at weddings has been in my stomach, as I have been called upon to officiate at four of them. I actually never intended to do any, but life takes some odd turns.

I set myself up for it by getting one of those mail order minister licenses when I was traveling 30,000 to 40,000 miles a year doing shows with my jewelry. I was also doing a lot of reiki at the time and the minister license helped at the time to deal with the patchwork quilt of regulations that vary from state to state or even county to county.

Still, I had not expected to perform any weddings. We opened RiverStone Gallery and happened to make wedding rings for a couple who decided that they wanted to get married in our gallery with me performing the ceremony! This was with about 12 hours notice. I definitely had butterflies, but did manage to get them married.

The next wedding was my daughter’s and it was a pleasure to do the ceremony for them. We went to a lovely state park on Whidbey Island in Washington and had the wedding in the midst of huge old trees overlooking Puget Sound. I recall having butterflies then too.

More time passed and a couple of good friends of ours decided to marry in a most unusual manner. Dan is a fly fishing guide and outfitter with his own lodge, Beartooth Fly Fishing. Nancy was president of the Madison/Gallatin Trout Unlimited chapter and also a fishing maniac. What could be more natural than to have the wedding on a fly fishing float on the Madison River behind the lodge?

We had made elaborate rings for them, complete with wee fishing scenes and they chose to see the rings first at the time they exchanged them during the ceremony. While they were doing so, I sneaked down to the boats and put a smuggled Just Married sign on the back of their boat, with trailing ribbons tied to floating plastic pop bottles. You can see pictures and the story here.

I thought I was done with weddings at that point, but life holds many surprises. We have a friend who has never married, but had been flabbergasted when an adult daughter turned up in his life. He and the daughter’s mother had broken up before she knew she was pregnant. The baby he did not know existed had been adopted and eventually searched for her birth parents.

So my single friend had to learn about being a daddy and a granddaddy in one fell swoop. She was divorced but when it came time to remarry, she and her fiancé decided to fly to Montana so they could include her birth father, since he had never had such an experience.

I was asked to perform this ceremony as well. This was a tiny wedding, attended only by the couple, her birth father, myself, and two witnesses who did not know the couple.

In all the previous weddings I had had plenty of butterflies in stomach and felt oddly out of place, as in “What am I doing, performing a wedding anyway?!?” Those were prior to developing Crystalline Consciousness Technique™, so I tried applying CCT to this wedding.

On the way to the ranch I set up my energy fields with CCT with the couple. I set up the energy fields of the couple, myself, and the attendees of the wedding. The intention used in these processes was to support their loving intentions for each other.

Then I opened a full CCT session for the couple, the attendees of the wedding, and myself. I invoked the appropriate sacred geometry healing chambers and left the session open for the ceremony itself to be the intention for the session.

We went to the pond for the ceremony and I felt completely at ease in the situation. Not a butterfly anywhere in my stomach, which I found astonishing. I felt a huge heart opening in our whole little group as the ceremony began.

The couple had thought out their vows with loving clarity and at the appropriate time, they each spoke their vows to each other. He was born in Spain and she did not speak Spanish. But she had some of her vows secretly translated into Spanish and had been taught how to say them.

This so amazed him he burst into tears when she spoke to him. So did the rest of us. I don’t recall ever feeling such a deep heart connection within a group.

The couple who had just paused to be witnesses as a favor to the birth father were so moved that they keep in touch with the couple now. I saw these witnesses in town a few months later.

As they had been on their way to another wedding upriver, I asked how the two weddings compared. She laughed and said the other one was nice, but did not have the depth of connection of the one at the pond. She thought it was the most amazing wedding of all.

I now know that if I get tapped for any more weddings, I will definitely use the CCT to anchor those loving intentions again, that worked incredibly well! It also was quite unusual for me to feel so relaxed and natural in the role of performing the ceremony.

I probably will not do any more weddings, but releasing butterflies at the end of one instead of squelching them internally at the beginning of the wedding really sounds good!



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2 thoughts on “Weddings, Butterflies, and Assorted Adventures

  1. Terry Starbucker

    Thanks for the link (and for the comment on my blog), and this great post about your wedding officiating experiences. Mine went very well, and the butterfly release was poignant. I have to admit I was probably more nervous doing this than my own wedding! All the best.

  2. Lexi Sundell

    I am happy to hear the wedding went well. I can relate to the nervousness! I think the butterfly release is a beautiful idea.

    Thanks for your kind words.


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