Choose Your Path of Growth, Or Not

What would I say to someone who is stalled in his or her life, mired in a helpless and powerless place of stuckness? What would I say to this person who is bewildered that most of their being resists moving forward?

I would say that people are more afraid of succeeding than afraid of failing. The responsibility of stepping fully into your power can seem a terrifying proposition in the face of our individual and group memories of misuse of power. Our entire histories are littered with those misuses of power, both great and small.

It may seem safer to remain powerless, helpless, and ineffective since that at least appears to reduce the damage possible. However the fact is that by being powerless, helpless, and ineffective, you are withholding all that could be positive if you did step into your own amazing power.

That unquestionably creates the greatest damage of all, both for you and for those around you.

None of us can “save” anyone else. None of us can make the decision for you to commit to your own personal growth. None of us can decide to do whatever it takes for you to accomplish that growth.

The good news is that none of us can stop you from doing those things either.

If you are committed to your personal growth, you will find a wealth of information that can assist you on that path. If you are not truly committed to your path of growth, nothing you find will counteract your choice to refuse growth.

That choice is yours and yours alone. You can decide to discover how to disarm your own wounded awareness that resists your personal growth and assert a path of healing for yourself, in however many steps it takes and however long it takes to do so. You can decide to take the steering wheel away from your wounded self and give it to your greater self. Or not.

I speak from the experience of having been quite a train wreck in my twenties, with my father dead from a heart attack, my mother having committed suicide, my ex-husband having gone violently insane, and my own health shattered from the violence.

I was suicidal, but decided to teach my daughter a different way to live than I saw around me. I knew I could not teach her what I did not already know and do by example. I had no idea how to accomplish the changes needed, but decided I was going to do it no matter what.

I failed often but I persisted anyway. Over a number of years I eventually devised for myself a far better manner of living to share with my daughter. I began to appreciate the joys of life, to have gratitude for life.

That was some 30 years ago without the numerous resources here on the internet. Now more help and information is available than ever. I know anyone can move forward if they actually choose to do so. The act of making such a commitment opens the door for new opportunities from divine source you can then recognize and use.

It all begins with self responsibility. Commit to your path and then make some changes in your life, and if they do not work, try something else until you find what works for you. Personal growth is not a straight line path of progression, or an easy one.

Actually, the only thing harder is choosing not to do it at all.

You are correct if you seek out those people who have accomplished what you want to learn. However, you will not be able to effectively apply their solutions without bringing your own commitment to your growth. That is the real starting place.

I wish you well with this process. The discoveries that await you are magnificent, if you choose to find them.

Copyright © Lexi Sundell 2008. All Rights Reserved.

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5 thoughts on “Choose Your Path of Growth, Or Not

  1. Ellie Walsh

    Excellent Post!

    Commitment – Hmmm I know I have shied away from that word.

    I think many times people are not 100% willing to commit not because of the old time cliches of either – I am afraid to fail or I am afraid to succeed. I believe the real fear is – I will not be able to do this!

    Yet – in this journey of personal development – there is nothing that you won’t be able to do – as there are no hard and fast rules!

    As you have stated – if this doesn’t work – go do something else! So – there is no failure – only discovery!

    Thanks for a great post!

  2. Patricia (without a blog)

    Excellent post, Lexi.

    I feel super happy for your personal success after so much struggle.
    You must feel double happy for it thanks to the bad early experiences.

  3. Lexi Sundell

    I don’t know if I am doubly happy but I do have far more joy than ever before!

    Thank you for your thoughtful response. I would ask you, isn’t fear of not being able to do it the same thing as fear of failing?

    And definitely try something else if what you are doing is not working! We agree on that point!


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    Tie that laces of both boots as well as walk around. Stand for the balls of your feet. If your feet do not move around an excess of and your heel would not slip, then you likely have the right fit.

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